Decade #1

When we started on this journey 10 years ago.. we were two young (22 & 23 year olds) who knew we were meant to be together. love at first sight.. nope (well at least me for:) haha … But as I think about my last 10 years with the most amazing man it makes me UBER excited about the next 10 years (and the 10 years after that, and the 10 after that!!)

Like most couples we wanted to do a celebration of sorts to honor this day.. so we planned (at our 9th anniversary) a cruise just the two of us… well we were blessed with a #5, which is so much more sweeter than any boat!! So with plan B now being our plan A.. we scheduled the whole day off..(that means joel put it on his calendar .. for me it took 3 days to arrange sitters for¬†all the kids..ha!)

The night before the big 5/7 we had NOT ONE THING PLANNED ūüė¶

after some input from dear friends we ended up heading down to Macon and exploring the historical district… sooo much fun!

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first up the Hay house… built in 1861 this 7 story house is mind blowing… we took a 45 minute tour and let me tell you AMAZING!!! We then were gonna check out the Cannonball house (but i decided i wanted to do the festival of homes at christmas instead:)

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Then we drove around and found this ADORABLE resturate on the square.. its called Rookery… SOO SOO SOO yummy! (Hamburger for me and a club sandwich for joel). It was neat cause all the wood you see in this picture has writing from people who ate there before.. it was really an experience!

IMG_20150507_151812249_HDRSince we decided against the CannonBall house, we headed to the Mall…… it was sooo weird to not have to lug the stroller out… I barely remember 1 baby:)

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Since Selah (baby #3) i have wanted to get my ears re-pierced..so .. we did it:) haha! And because its OUR anniversary we had to do a dude thing!

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Dinner was next and the most amazing gift.. I -wink wink- may have hinted a time or two i would love a ring so i could stack it with my wedding bands… Joel wasn’t a fan.. but i guess that is where Love comes in.:)

(it was a bit small it will go with my rings)

(it was a bit small it will go with my rings)

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all put together!

 

Within the first year of our marriage¬†my parents got divorced.. heartbreaking for me.. it shook me so bad. I doubted everything (even though i knew it was coming and wasn’t really surprised) around me.. Even the commitment¬†we had made. One night i asked Joel if he would divorce me.. He simply looked at me and Said ‘i made a comment to God AND you. No your stuck with me for life.’ I will never forget those words and as i look at our last 10 years and anticipate our next 80 .. it makes me a little giddy!:)

~Jessica

(and our kids were well loved also! Thank you friends for stepping up and blessing us)

 

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What if….

Lately I have been asked a bunch..”hows Lydia adjusting to Asher?’ the simple answer is ‘she is doing fine.’ Our family is large..(according to todays standards.) We had 5 children in 7 years, one right after another. Why do we have so many children? Is it healthy for us? Do we make enough money? You will regret it… the comments could go on and on. But as of this past week, as I look around my little brood of humans.. I see something.. something different.¬†baby #5

What if.

Yes I long to hold my little baby after 9 long months, Yes I love they way they smell, Yes watching them grow makes me giddy. But is that why we have them? Maybe. But what if that #2, #5, #9th child isn’t about you at all?

What if … its for them. The other humans (littles) in your home?
So the questions HOW is lydia… here are a few snap shots of the last 8 weeks.

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Lydia pulled the wipe pkg out and stood on it could she could not see ‘aaa’

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asking to hold him for the first time.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Our family is a reflection of love that grows.. grows within my heart as a mother but in the hearts of our other children. Our boys¬†often say.. “when God blesses us with another baby..” Having each one is directly in part to the Fact God wanted the current kent kids to have another sibling. As I see Lydia (who’s first word is “aaaa’ -the simple sound of Aa) and her delight and excitment each morning when she runs room to room hollering “aaaaa” in search of her friend. Her brother. No where in her is jealously or hurt feelings.

Then I see today where Judah and Levi both took special time with her because they wanted to… loving on her showing her she is special.

IMG_20150325_173922 IMG_20150327_111112804_HDROne doing spelling while holding and gently talking to her, the other sharing a snack together.

What if she was born for them..

IMG_20150306_093324910_HDRWhat if my large family has nothing to do with me or superman but all to do with THEM…

them needing each other

them wanting each other

God loving them enough.

What if its NOTHING about us.. but all about God’s plan?

What if?!?!

~Jessica

 

 

Why I married HIM…

Unlike what you are thinking this post isn’t to Boast or brag about my AMAZING Superman.. Although don’t get me wrong he is ‘AMAZING’:) It is more a post about why…. let me explain!

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When we got married 8.5 years ago I knew without a shadow of a doubt that he was the man I was called to marry.. NO there wasn’t a (insert deep voice-from God) “MARRY HIM JESSICA!” but there WAS a peace.. The event surrounding our courtship (of 6 months) and then engagement was anything less than fun. Lots of ‘important people’ had many different opinions. Without going into all that, (its a story for another time!:) We decided to move forward and marry.

I knew I loved him and that God had brought us together. I had always wanted a man who loved me 2nd.. yes 2nd  to God. And He did. I would always be first when it comes to this world but 2nd when it came to God. To me that was more than I could ever dreamed or hope for.

Now 8.5 years later, a drastic move (3 months after marrying), no family close, 3.5 kids, and a home we are here.. (whatever that mean..) living life together. Now there are no roses or chocolate everyday and some days are hard. But we had a short mini conversation last week that lead to this post…..

Our financial status has changed.. well not really but it seems like it has.. the ends meet but with nothing left to spare. (BECAUSE WE SERVE A GREAT GOD! DUH!) But as he and I were in the kitchen talking about how the $ just isnt there.. i looked over and said.. “well at least we have each other!”

What I mean by that is .. statically couples fight over money and the lack or abundance of it. Who spends what, why they spend it ect.. I can honestly say we have never fought over money.. why?!? Well for one we trust the other person and we share the same Financial goals personally, and as a family. These two things make a huge impact!

The old saying ‘you cant live on love alone’…. well i disagree.. Love is what keeps us focused and together.. if we didn’t ‘love’ each other this season would have been EXTRA (or really that much) hard-er. We may not have but 17 cents in our bank account.. but TOGETHER (because we love and respect each other) will do whatever it takes to make it work for OUR family! Not give up or quitting ..instead be willing to fight for it.

There has been many sacrifices made over the past 3-5 months.. but we are still inlove and making it.. not by our own but because we listened to God and followed him as he lead us to each other..

NOW i started this posted with.. Why I married Him.. to finished it would be ‘because I know without a doubt God placed him in my life to LIVE life and because I LOVED him…”

I would must rather be POOR and inlove than Rich and not.. that is just me!!

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Then the LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.”

Genesis 2:18 NLV

What are your thoughts????

~jessica

Dating my Son…

Each month My husband and I goal for one date night.. kid-free.. we hire our amazing sitter and hit the town..(or target, publix you know boring but HEY we are together right:) As we made this a priority in our lives we noticed our oldest getting werid and upset.. (he was 3).. we decided that just like we want alone time with each other our kids crave that also.. SOO thus began the tradition of dating our kiddo’s.

We have done it many different ways but what works for us is each parent gets every other month with any and all children ¬†3 & over. That child gets to pick and plan the date – although sometimes we have a surprise date also. But we like to encourage them to pick something they love and want to share with us.. ¬†And to see them grow.. A few months back I took “brother” out and as we were planning it he said lets go to “El Charro” .. why i asked.. “Cause mommy its your favorite place and i want to eat with you”.. HONORED!!!!!!!! (to say the least!) So we went and he was thrilled to see me loving every bite!

Last week my husband suggested i take the first month of the year this year.. SOO Brother and I made a plan and (very important) stuck with it. Logan’s to eat then the book store for hot chocolate and reading…

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*My favorite part: as we were getting into the car he walked over and opened the door..”to honor you mommy” and as soon as it was openned he hopped right in..:) his heart was soo pure i loved it!

SOO much fun! I loved being able to focus on just him.. and let him know how much he means to me.. it makes me appreciate him THAT much more!