What if….

Lately I have been asked a bunch..”hows Lydia adjusting to Asher?’ the simple answer is ‘she is doing fine.’ Our family is large..(according to todays standards.) We had 5 children in 7 years, one right after another. Why do we have so many children? Is it healthy for us? Do we make enough money? You will regret it… the comments could go on and on. But as of this past week, as I look around my little brood of humans.. I see something.. something different. baby #5

What if.

Yes I long to hold my little baby after 9 long months, Yes I love they way they smell, Yes watching them grow makes me giddy. But is that why we have them? Maybe. But what if that #2, #5, #9th child isn’t about you at all?

What if … its for them. The other humans (littles) in your home?
So the questions HOW is lydia… here are a few snap shots of the last 8 weeks.

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Lydia pulled the wipe pkg out and stood on it could she could not see ‘aaa’

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asking to hold him for the first time.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Our family is a reflection of love that grows.. grows within my heart as a mother but in the hearts of our other children. Our boys often say.. “when God blesses us with another baby..” Having each one is directly in part to the Fact God wanted the current kent kids to have another sibling. As I see Lydia (who’s first word is “aaaa’ -the simple sound of Aa) and her delight and excitment each morning when she runs room to room hollering “aaaaa” in search of her friend. Her brother. No where in her is jealously or hurt feelings.

Then I see today where Judah and Levi both took special time with her because they wanted to… loving on her showing her she is special.

IMG_20150325_173922 IMG_20150327_111112804_HDROne doing spelling while holding and gently talking to her, the other sharing a snack together.

What if she was born for them..

IMG_20150306_093324910_HDRWhat if my large family has nothing to do with me or superman but all to do with THEM…

them needing each other

them wanting each other

God loving them enough.

What if its NOTHING about us.. but all about God’s plan?

What if?!?!

~Jessica

 

 

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Christmas Experience…

Last year we decided to switch things up a bit … for Christmas we have always done 3 gifts. Why .. well Jesus only got 3 AND because my children are beyond blessed to receive many gifts throughout the Christmas season .. so why just continue to throw gifts at them!?! My kids don’t make lists, so listening to them all year long to find out what they really want is so so much more meaningful! AND we feel that those 3 gifts from us should count.

BUT not break the bank.. our budget on all 4 kids is 150$. TOTAL (not each). Last year we decided to change the 3 gifts to 2 gifts and do a Christmas Experience with each child. Levi’s was to legoland, Judah was to ride a horse. Selah didn’t get the concept so we decided they had to be 3.

A few weeks ago we took Selah on her Experience. She as with every other girl in America loves Frozen.. so we took her to see Frozen on Ice. My sister-n-law found some amazing tickets and we were all able to go for $60. (5 of us!!) I went to Walmart and picked up Elsa and Anna shirts and light up bracelets and planned on getting a treat once we arrived.

arriving at the rink.. she was in heaven!

arriving at the rink.. she was in heaven!

We had amazingly close seats and sat with Joels family. It was fun to see the excited of my niece and my daughter as each character was introduced! Having my in-laws there was so nice and festive!! 🙂

My 3 oldest littles

My 3 oldest littles

We decided to take all the older ones to each experience.. we just make it more about the one.. and that one gets the special ‘extras’. BUT all 3 kids LOVED the show!

Seriously beautiful and so worth every penny!

Seriously beautiful and so worth every penny!

Like I said Joels family joined in on the fun.. Great memories for all!

the whole crew minus lydia (and WITH 2 growing babies in tummies!)

the whole crew minus lydia (and WITH 2 growing babies in tummies!)

The grands with the grands!

The grands with the grands!

 

So Selah will only receive 2 gifts from us.. but will have this memory for a long time we hope! Love doing special things with our family. TIME is a gift and we are giving it to them in the form of a christmas gift!:) Now to get the boys set up and pick out their 2 gifts!!!!

YEAH!
Do you do any fun christmas tradition!??

Just a day…

Today was unusual… the kind of unusual I’d love to stick around..  As we woke and sent daddy off to work I realized he left his phone.. NO this can’t happen.. what if He needed it.. what if I NEEDED him to have it?!?! {Come on lets be real we know it was just as much for him as me} SO I loaded all the kids up ..mind you it is only 8:00 and headed towards his work.. all the while scanning oncoming traffic to make sure he didn’t come home looking for it.

Success.. phone delivered. Then back home.. NOW mind you Lydia {chickadee} is still not sleeping through the night and as of late has decided to wake up like EVER.SINGLE. 3 hours.. So i was slap wore out.. plus i was flying solo this weekend so i was POOPED! I needed a nap..but it was only 9:30 .. so we made lemonade out of lemons.. The kids and I played a game and then went on a walk, eat lunch and then took naps {YES ME TOO!} The boys woke early and stay in their rooms quite for TWO {2} hours!!! Playing lego’s and reading. The girls slept till 3! Made dinner and then headed to Judah’s dive camp.

Now i realize this seems dumb for an entire post but for me.. as i was getting all the littles in their pi’s and having them cozie down for the night.. I was able to capture the day in one picture….

all ready for bed!:)

all ready for bed!:)

NO one got in trouble, no one hurt another sibling, no one screamed, or argued with me… Everyone work together, played happy, enjoyed each other, smiled, laughter.. Today was a great day.. a glimpse of GRACE..

Love my children, love my life, Love my Savior!

~Jessica

The good mom….

Yesterday we ran about our day as usual, wake up, breakfast, school (x3), library, then CFA. While at the library for story time (WHICH if you are in my neck of the woods we have an amazing librarian who’s calling REALLY is children and books!!) Anywho… when story time is over she has a craft for them to do. I normally try to sit out the craft..(REMEMBER i have 4 kids 6 and under). But today was soo funny I had to share…

As I did my normal -5 million times a day- scan to count kids, I saw sweet sister pulling on another moms shirt to have her help with her craft.. – I gulity got up and walked over to relieve the mom. In which she said ‘oh she is soo sweet i dont mind’ and my own daughter saying ‘ her help me mommy!’.. WELL ok!

I’ll look for the boys..

BOTH were being read to by ANOTHER good mom..

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Although I love being apart of the comunity which people love your kids for you.. i felt horrible….

MAYBE cause I was sitting …..

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SEE that empty green chair… yep that is where my tush was .. just relaxing rocking the baby, chatting away!

WELL next time ill be the ‘good mom’ and read to other peoples kids…’maybe!’ 🙂

~jessica

 

faith of a child…

Today as I rocked Chickadee and flipped through the mail, I noticed we received our income tax check.. although most would be thrilled, we are working through how to use that said ‘extra $$’. As I stood there {slightly pacing} tossing around ideas .. do we pay off car, get Superman his much need surgery on his mouth, fix the drainage around our house, the list goes on…I was stopped short when I saw this..

taco 4 years old

taco 4 years old

My 2nd oldest child playing quietly with is car (that no longer works due to batteries needing to be replaced, mismatched socks.. cause who really cares anyways ..) With no care in the world.. I stood there and it hit me. He doesn’t know or even care where dinner is coming from, or whether or not we will have a home tomorrow, he trusts us- his parents.. 100% .. That lead me to go check out each of the older ones and this is what i saw…IMG_20140310_171902_410 IMG_20140310_171835_403

Each child engrossed in their own world.. (these pictures were all take within second of each other).. But it really made me think.. how do we go from faith as a child, to little/no faith as an adult.. we doubt the $ will arrive, we doubt our relationship will work out, we doubt just about everything.. we say we air on the side of caution.. but is that Biblical?? i am not sure and i am not here to debate it.. but i am simply saying.. my 3 older children and my tax return all made me stop and think.. God wants what is best for me..PERIOD.. i don’t need to ‘worry’ or frate, i just need to trust.. WHOLE-heartly. Yes things may not end up BEAUTIFUL or how we want it, but he loves us more than we love ourselves.. or he would not have created us.. Although i still have to figure out how to spend the tax return I now know that life is full of faith, are we {I} willing to trust and hold on for the ride like our children or walk doubtful into the future???

~jessica

life with..

FOUR.. all FOUR under 6.5 adorable and would not/ could not imagine life without them.. but FOUR little people to shape and mold into whatever the Lord has for them… such a HUGE job! Today no expection.. well expect life got in the way:)

*wake up shower 7:00 (me)

*kids are STRAVING!!!!! 7:30

*Nurse and pump chickadee 8:00

*School (1st grade, Pre K, Pre pre pre k:) 8:30

school.. i love that they lay like this on their own!!

school.. i love that they lay like this on their own!!

*cant find diaper bag, assume in the car 10:00

*go to library for story time (LOVE our library) 10:30

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*plan to go to CFA with a friend  (12:00)

*Nurse Chickadee again (12:05)

sweet girl..almost 3 months

sweet girl..almost 3 months

*arrive unload kids and pull out stroller 12:30

*TAKE everyone potty.. sister pee’s her pants WHILE going on the potty..change 12:35

*go order..forgot wallet- no $$ – used all the gift cards and good coupons :(.. THANK THE LORD for good friends  12:50

*sit eat

*decide to go home 1:55

*cant find keys..

*FIND THEM IN THE VAN STILL RUNNING..2:00

*pick up recently filled dr. pepper to head home.. DROP SAID DR PEPPER… sign-

*go to car no pull ups.. put a size 1 on my 2 year old… (EEK)

it is now 2:05…

*head home… YEP life is more fun and adventurous with 4!!!

the four amazing blessing that call me mom!

the four amazing blessing that call me mom!

And now we rest for naptime.. dear i hold my breath:)

~jessica

Packing for 3 {under 6}

At the end of May I took the brave {or insane.. stupid would work too:)} journey (yes in a van) to Florida for 12 days by myself….It was worth every minute but MAN!! It was a TRIP for sure!:) Being Pregnant with our 4th and traveling with 3 little ones -by myself- was a feat to say the least!

BUT before we even ventured out of the state (for the 8.5 hour drive) I had to pack {EVERYONE!} …

I have a system I started back when our oldest was born and just grow and adjusted it as each new child arrived!

First make sure all the clothes are washed! **IMPORTANT for sanity!

Then I lay out all the clothes for one child (we were gone 12 days but I knew I would have use of a washer and dryer so I planned 5 days per child with 2 pj’s each,  1 set of nice church clothes & Bathing suit pile) Then laid out the next child’s… it looked like this

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Top was “Baby”, middle “Taco”, third was “Brother”

This made it easy for me to see what I needed or was missing… (complete outfits were laid down -shorts, shirt, leggings, ect)

Then I grabbed my running supply of 1 gallon Ziploc bags and began to fill them… I would put one WHOLE day in one Bag.. (one bag would contain an outfit for all 3 kids-) It looked like this..

ImageI do this because when you pile a bunch of clothes in a suitcase things get messy and you have no idea what goes with what or who’s is who… This way each morning I was able to (within seconds) pull out a matching outfit for each child and it had all its parts!:)

I ended up with 5 bags of daily clothes, 1 bag of nicer clothes, 1 bag of swimming things, 2 bags of pj’s.. and 1 bag for each child with their own socks and underwear… ‘baby’ had bows & socks in her bag.

ImageThis trip after i washed each load of laundry I immediately folded it up and placed the 3 outfits back into the bag -so it was ready for the next use… This kept the room nice and clean from lose socks, clothes or missing things.. everything was always in this suitcase (looking very much like the picture above) the entire stay. It also made it easy to pack up when we were ready to go..I had this and my suit case and we were ready to go within 20 mins…

I also packed 2 packs of diapers, 1 pack of pull ups & 2 packs of wipes. Each child got two pairs of shoes.. sandals & tennis shoes, and a hat each.

I LOVE this way of packing. Hope you were able to get some tips and hints! If you have any questions PLEASE ask!!:)